So many partners/spouses see these things as black and white, cut and dried, easy peasy answers. They aren't.
Sadly, I don't have an answer on this one. It's just not that easy. They don't understand and often, because they can't fix it, they want us to do the most expedient thing and shut up about it. Yet, this is, in its own, rather back-handed way, him showing his concern. He wants the woman he loves to feel better.
He also wants the woman he loves to come back to him and right now, she's married to pain and treatments and doctors' appointments. I think you know what I'm trying to say there. I don't see how an epidural is a grave risk, but I'm not living your case. Still, this indicates that he's frightened for you. At least it does for me.
You know, we talk about people finding the magic bullet treatment that will make it all stop. I think that's what he's looking for, too.
Warm Hugs,
