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#270145 10/18/07 01:01 AM
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Im leaving my wife people...13 years and now I've had enough. She is under the impression that I have to do everything around the house and with the kids because I'm not at work right now. I do what I can. She hasn't lifted a finger in 3 months and Im totally sick of it. I just wish I could snap my fingers and give her AS for a few days....

Scotty...

Scotty #270146 10/18/07 01:06 AM
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Oh Scotty,

I am so sorry!

13 years is alot to invest, do you not think there is anything that can be done?

Is she really so insensitive to your AS and pain? Would she be happier without you?

This just makes me really sad, you need support....if you get divorced it is going to test your strength, your patience, maybe even your frame of mind....but sometimes it is just not avoidable.

You will be in my thoughts and prayers,

Lisa


Speak kindly, Live simply, Care deeply, Love generously, and BLAH, HA, HA, LOUDLY! every chance you get.

Scotty #270147 10/18/07 01:13 AM
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that's a lot to swallow. i won't pretend to be able to relate but have you exhausted all avenues of getting past this? like lisa said, that's a lot of years invested and with kids too. i feel for you.


Scotty #270148 10/18/07 01:16 AM
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I feel your pain but wishing A.S. on someone is not the answer, even if sparks fly from your finger tips.
I am going through a divorce......I don't have kids, and its still hard. I hope you take things a day at a time for now, and remember not to get far ahead of youreself.
Things have a way of working out. Stay in there! Books are great tools for heightening perception, they can make your rainy day sunny.


Scotty #270149 10/18/07 01:34 AM
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Hey Scotty,
Tomorrow's a new day....It's amazing how much difference it can make. Don't do anything rash. Maybe a nice long talk with her might help? Sometimes we don't communicate the obvious, thinking that they should know what's going on or what you're feeling. There's also nothing like putting yourself in their shoes for a while and vice versa. Hope things get better, take care, Wanda


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I do think she would be happier without me. I have been a real pain in the [**BLEEP**] lately due to pain and depression. All I asked of her was to lend a helping hand around the house. I agree that me being home all day justifies her point but she can't seem to get it through her head that I'm not always capable of doing everything that needs to be done. Not only does she not contribute she adds to the mess as much as my kids do. I think she is being very unreasonable lately and I think its because she wants me to get fed up and leave. God, life has a way of slapping me in the face continually..............I give up!!! Scotty...

Scotty #270151 10/18/07 05:24 AM
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Scotty,
Sounds like there needs to possibly be some kind of counselling going on here. Lack of communication is not good. It ruins relationships. Does she have no respect for you and the fact you have AS and are unable to do everything when needed?
Hang in there Scotty

Sherri


Scotty #270152 10/18/07 07:48 AM
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Oh Scotty, I'm sorry. I know you've been battling this for a while now. I was really hoping it would get better. As the other's have said, try to think things through before making a rash move, and after giving it due consideration, do what you have to do. Please take care of yourself, I'll keep you in my thoughts.


Janet

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Scotty,

You listen to me, you don't get to give up, your kids need their awesome Dad.

I know things seem pretty hopeless right now, I know I went thru a divorce 18 years ago and if I hadn't had Tiffany, I can honestly say I don't think I would be here today (sorry, just being honest)

18 years later after praying, cryng, begging to save my marriage God answered my prayers it just wasn't how I wanted it, BUT looking back now he did answer it in the BEST way.

I will say yes you are gong thru he**, and it is so much worse when you have kids.

Please think about it, exhaust all your resources, pray, meditate whatever your thing is.

If you get divorced can you support yourself? Does she have a good enough job to pay you alimoney because you are disabled.

A big thing Stever is going thur right now, I don't think he would mind me talking about it because he has expressed it here in a post, but if you got divorced, could you make child support payments if you had to?

If you need to talk just pm me, I dont want to get to personal, but I can think of some other things you might need to know.

I hope things will somehow work out for you in the near future that will be the best for you and you will be happy again, you have been down for so long.

Hugs,

Lisa


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Scotty #270154 10/18/07 01:06 PM
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Awh Man!
I don't think I can add anything to what has already been said. I feel bad for you though, both of you. It's alot of presure on both of you and AS does not make for the "Happily Ever After" we all strive for.
I think councelling may be in order. The two of you really need to sit and talk about this. If not for yourselves, do it for your kids.
Seperation and divorce should be the last option.

Hugs

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