Shiver me timbers Michelle. Talk about pouring...

Will you have to speak at the hearings? Attending, but are 'you' required to speak? If to sit and hear it out, yes, will be traumatic but so long as not required 'to' speak then perhaps bearable? (Could have your lawyer make a plea to the judge if you have to speak, that is, don't grill the gal?)
Looking at that line-up, 20, 27 April and 1 May (for 'me') would be the worst. Got to be on yr toes, listening good and responding and being ready to go in and do battle.
Pre-op, that is almost a doddle - though stressful, as they play 'pass-the-parcel' with you! But no battle as such involved. Bring a book. Bring in a thingy player. Meditate. Then go indulge in a plateful of yr fave ice-cream - you 'earned' it gal.
Disability hearing. Stressful. Don't forget to ask for a chair. Bring water with you. Be pathetic. (IF you can...!)
May 2 - relax, you will be in good hands. Strong thoughts and good guidance to the surgeon and his group.
All power and white light to you hon - Bless.
