Kickas.org Forums Ankylosing Spondylitis General Discussion #1 AS Web Support Group Where is everyone today? Reluctant update.

I don't think there has been a single new post here all day. I just left the chat room and there was nobody there either. Is it just me or is this place slowin down? C'mon people, there's gotta be something to say. I had a long talk with my ex-wife today for the first time since our divorce. It seems we get along better now than we did while we were married. Did I tell you that she is now a lesbien? See there's gotta be something interesting that happened to you today.
Later,
Steve
p.s. See my reply to this post.

Is she really Steve or is that your sense of humour kicking in? I don't think you can just become a lesbian overnight so she must have been questioning her sexuallity all her life.

Scotty...

I was'nt going to get into it here but about 6 months before we seperated she asked me about having a third party in our bedroom and I told her I would'nt do it. She started working more and more night shifts and one night I called the hospital where she worked and was told that she was'nt working that night. When I confronted her about it she made up some lame excuse and I let it go. She kept working overtime and last minute (on call) shifts and I caught her in a lie again. That's when she opened up and told me what was going on in her life and it was a girl (part whale) that had been to our house on several occasions and I realised that this was the third party (more like fourth) that she wanted to bring into our bedroom. Needless to say our marriage was over from that point but I would have put up with it for the kids sake. Soon after that we seperated to seperate floors in our home and fought a legal battle for a year and a half where the only ones who came out ahead were the Lawyers. She ended up buying my half of the house from me and I moved into a two bedroom appartment ten minutes away. Since then her girlfriend has moved in with her and I just started talking to my ex in a friendly manner. I have my kids two nights a week and every other weekend and they tell me all about "mommy's friend".

And then you wonder why I have a sense of humour, if I did'nt I'd end up putting a gun to my head.

Steve

Hey Steve,

I know I personally check in every day just to read your posts. You're pretty lively!

I try to post a message everyday.
I couldn't tell you where anybody else is.

Steve,

it is no wonder that you are hurting big time. It is very brave of you to open up in this way. It is very sad that she cannot have sexual contact in a more "normal" way.

From what you have said about the way that she treated you, she is the one who needs to see a psychiatrist because that form of cruelty means that she has a mental problem that needs to be resolved.

I do not think that it is right that she has the best amount of access of the children because of the untold harm that her relationships will have upon them as they will no doubt become confused about their own sexuality.

No wonder you feel so lonely and no wonder you feel so rejected. However, you are not alone where this kind of thing is concerned. It happens to men more than you could ever think.

We are always here if you need to get something off your chest. Please do not lose that sensitivity and that sense of humour. It is uncanny that you guessed about the effects of sneezing. However, you forgot that we have Poise, Depend and Tena as backups ;-)

MaggieinOz

Steve..
Your posts are always enjoyable to read...but this one...I cant even come close to topping...
The most excitement last week for me was joing the gym....yep...the bug is working out..thanks to Remi and the muscles that were there in my bony little arms are back..oh and my kid somehow managed to knock one of her sisters canopy posts down reach down and try to pick it up and puncture her shin with it..so we stayed in ER for stitches till 330 am. and my son tried to drink some floor purple flabioso wash. poison control said it was only soap and detergent so he's alive...and i have high blood pressure now......thats about it...

glad you have a great sense of humor....i always get a good chuckle out of them..humor is what keeps us going buddy...

Dude! My best pal had 2 exes become lesbians, and he thought he had something to do with it...but you know, probably not, things happen and biology comes into play...so, go figure, but don't think that anything you did made her gay....no guilt on your part...if that's who she is then so be it...you probably broke up for other reasons...and hey, you have a lesbian ex, it could be worse!

My AS kicked several relationships with women, long term and dating...crazy, but now I'm single and on Enbrel and meeting women...problem is, I look older than I feel...lol...I feel 25 and was dancing with lovely ladies tonight at a bar (dance you say? on Enbrel yes...) but it was just dancing...I look like their fathers...lol...

It sounds like you and your ex are handling everyting civily, and there's little stress...you don't need more stress on top of AS...

Peace
Linc

Ok, just read about all the lying....that sucks...and the year and a half of separate floors??? I spent over half a year living with my ex, in separate bedrooms, as we had broken up but were battling over the apartment and neither of us had the money to move...whoa...I can relate...but it works out eventually...

I'm glad you are being civil with your ex...the kids need that, especially in this situation...they are going to need stability while they process this change...

Peace, hang in there, keep us posted, lots of people here who can share ideas...
Linc