well spoken Pete. Scotty, if there is a 12 step program for A.S., I sure do owe a lot of apologies to several of my "ex-boyfriends". Looking back, the pain from A.S. has cost me some precious relationships. I perhaps have chosen never to marry for fear of continuing hurting those I love most. When I am in pain, I lash out at those closest to me, never realizing that they just simply can't nor could ever understand the pain, frustration, and inabilities that we ASers go through on a daily basis. Hang in there, and don't let her go unless you are 101% sure that it can't work. AS alone, IS Lonely Warmest, Teresa